I can understand the frustration since in your case it doesn't matter if it fuses or not.
But I can also understand why shapeways would cancel such items.
In some cases it may be more difficult to guess how important it is for customers to retain the separartion. For instance on some patterned surface that hase some very fine details. In some cases the designer knows it probably wont print all the detail, but is fine with that.
In other cases, the designer doesn't realise he left too little clearance and expects the details to print just fine. If shapeways would decide to print it and send it, the designer would/could be mad since shapeways decided to print the model, instead of noticing the designer that his model did not meet the criteria, and send out a model which can be claimed faulty. Even worse if someone bought it from your shop, expecting to have the detail as shown in the model, but ending up with a not so detailed model.
So for shapeways, it's a logical decision to stay on the safe side and reject models that don't adhere to the guidelines.